So when I was being stalked, I secured a prescription for a drug that counteracts fear, and I still take it as it does me good. Because the prescription was so hard to get originally I am always rather tentative when I go to get it renewed, saying I know I should ideally not still be taking this but it still has a good effect, and I would like to continue.
What the MD said this time: you know, you are the first person I have met who feels guilty about having found a medication which works. It is as though you did not feel you had a right to take the things you need.
This was a perceptive comment in a global way. Of course I also thought: I may be the first person who has expressed this sense to you, but we are legion. Many are raised to take as little as possible, to take the minimum, to accept less than we need.
I had just come from an academic senate meeting wherein a vote to request parity in salaries for women passed with a very narrow margin. Those voting against had alleged we had no money to support parity, even in principle.
The firebrand Marxists and labor historians, men of course, had abstained on grounds of insufficient resources (note that we are not the budget committee, we are academic senate), and women had voted no alleging that if we make less, it is because we are less meritorious.